A few years ago, a mormon bishop took it upon himself to inform me that my lifestyle was outdated, and that as a woman I needed to apply myself to a career instead of settling for being a simple stay-at-home-mom. He proclaimed this on a Sunday, while wearing a suit, with the authority of God and all that jazz.
And I thought to myself, “Wow, even the mormons don’t like me.”
If it was some sort of attempt at conversion, it had the exact opposite effect — and I’m still very much a stay-at-home mom. I guess the thing that people don’t understand is that I feel an enormous amount of passion about raising my children, and no criticism is going to change that. I’m not going to sell my soul for approval.
The one thing that I did take away from the exchange was that I am alone.
Totally, completely, alone.
I’ve met a lot of women who consider raising kids to be nothing more than a diversion from the ever-so-much-more-important career. Like paychecks are the only things that matter in life.
I’ve lived with the isolation ever since.
But here’s the funny thing about 2020: despite the lockdowns, social distancing, and rampant censorship, the one thing that I’ve learned is that I’m not alone.
There are a lot of people like me.
More than I would have expected, too.
We were just all too scared to say what we really thought before now.
2 thoughts on “2020”
It really isn’t his place to make choices for you or condemn your life. Every woman has a choice, whether it’s to be a stay at home mom, be a career woman and have a kid or just not have kids at all. It’s all personal.
Congratulations on being a full time mom! My mom was the same and I know how hard she worked from morning ’till night with love, doing her best to raise me well and care for the house. If anyone says staying at home is easy or they scoff at it, well, I believe they’re fools. But that’s just my opinion.
By the way, have you ever watched Mrs Midwest on Youtube? I have a feeling you might like her vlogs.
I don’t believe that being a stay-at-home is for every woman, but I do take offense that so many people think its okay to treat women who make that choice like they’re “less than”.
I don’t spend much time online and have never heard of Mrs Midwest, but at first glance she seems very ‘shiny,’ lol.